Dating a man who has recently divorced
Even if the decision was mutual and the breakup was amicable, it’s likely you still experienced pain over the loss.
This was a person whose life became interlaced with your own.
If you date a woman who is still technically married, you are doing a disservice to yourself AND the soon-to-be ex-husband.
Remember that there is a lot of logistics that go into completing a divorce — paperwork, separation of assets, etc.
If things are messy, you don’t want to get involved.
Certain circumstances force exes to remain in each other’s lives (either for the short- or long-term), but you want to date someone who has found common ground and a way to coexist with their ex. If she’s talking smack about the man she previously committed to spending an entire lifetime with, then just how solid are her decision making skills?
I didn’t know that by the time I reached my early 30s, the dating pool would shrink drastically — statistically, there’s less than half as many single people. Some, such as being divorced or a single parent, is more obvious. Dating relationships gone wrong leave us broken despite the best intentions to guard our hearts. While I still desire a healthy marriage, I have become less obsessed about a person’s past and more interested in his practices of the present.
Conversely, certain people who had felt the end coming for months or even years before an official decision was made to divorce may falsely believe they can dive back into the dating world before papers have been filed.
You don’t want to be judgmental or — even worse — let a good thing slip away.
, intuition is a real and measurable thing (that’s right, you’re NOT just being paranoid).
Look for women who have amicably decided to split, not women who incessantly talk smack about their exes.
Smack talkers reveal more about themselves than they do about others. There’s a lot of danger involved in dating a recently divorced or separated woman.