Dating someone who is anorexic
Treat your recovered or recovering partner the same: Honor the illness for what it is, offer what support you can , and give them time to feel the feelings.
In recovery, your partner will hopefully have learned coping skills and/or developed a support system.
If you’re willing to be supportive of your partner’s recovery, then that means you are willing to be sensitive about the language you use around them.
There’s nothing wrong about wanting to share your excitement about doing something that makes you feel great with your partner, like starting a gluten-free diet or training for an obstacle race.
But for day-to-day food weirdness, it’s not your job to decide how many cookies do or do not get eaten.
The recovered individual gets to find his or her own path and learn how to become comfortable eating around others, one strange meal at a time.
I challenge you to find one office kitchen in the United States in which coworkers don’t spend their lunch hours commiserating over the last five pounds while eating stale cookies from yesterday’s meeting.In other words: If you require nightly trips to the pub where everybody knows your name, don’t date someone who is working the twelve steps.There is a fine line between having your partner’s best interests in mind and playing the food police.That means offering both space an support – and not judgment or unsolicited advice. You look great” or “Why don’t you just try eating [insert fear food here]. If anything, it just makes your partner feel worse because they can’t access your state of good-natured apathy toward the situations that, to their disordered brain, sometimes feel like Treating an eating disorder like a laughing matter or using dismissive language is troubling and triggering.You wouldn’t tell someone with bipolar disorder that they should get over it or chill out (and if you would, you shouldn’t).