Levels of dating relationships
What kind of time should couples spend together in the early stages of a relationship?
The answer turns on what you are trying to find out about this person at this stage of things.
Remember, your intent at this point is not necessarily marriage — and that’s not what either of you are committing to at this stage.
You’re simply committing to get to know her a little better in an intentional way to evaluate whether the two of you should then consider marriage to one another.
In the end, there is no formula and no rote substitute for intellectually honest Christians seeking to care well for one another and to faithfully apply Scripture to infinitely varied relational circumstances.
If a man initiates with you, ladies, think and pray and seek counsel before simply dismissing him.If nothing else, treating men who initiate well will encourage other men to initiate.If we are concerned about defrauding one another (again, this idea applies to both genders but particularly to the men as the initiators), another one of the early issues to address is how much and what kind of time couples spend together.Then — in addition to actually thinking and praying about it — ask one of your pastors or elders whether he knows him and what he thinks.If the pastor or elder you ask doesn’t know him well, he can guide you to a trustworthy source that knows him better.