Mormon internet dating
You can meet a new person, have a fabulous conversation with them, and then it may be months before you spot the person at church again.
The Lord told us very strongly that it was and we scheduled a date right away.
She doesn’t mind that she’s instigates everything because she’s a social butterfly. They spend enough time together they were practically a couple. But would that happen in a women-dense population where the men expect the woman to flock to them, bake them treats, and invite them to parties? If a man is interested, he’ll find a way to meet the woman.
She plans outings for all of her friends, it’s just her thing. In her mind there are mixed messages all over the place. If he’s shy and needs a nudge, he will still do it, it just might take him longer.
So when The Rules suggest that a woman should never instigate a conversation, or angle herself into the seat beside his, invite him over first, etc., it might seem like a really bad strategy. I’ve been a Rules Girl, and I’ve been the anti-Rules Girl. (It’s possible she only ever planned the dinner just for this reason.) Every Sunday she makes it a point to talk to him, sit near but not too close to him, and repeats the same at family home evening, and Institute during the week.
How else will a guy ever notice you in a sea of other women, if you don’t help him out a bit? I’ve asked out men, and I’ve patiently waited and wished for a man to ask me out. She conveniently got his phone number when she invited him over for dinner. How much more does she have to do to get him to ask her out or fall in love with her? If she had never done any of that, she wouldn’t have to ask.