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Their preferences become less important, and the other person's looks can begin to "grow" on them. We've seen this happen time and time again – but only when the daters are "okay" about each others’ appearance when they first meet.
It never happens when one of them has a strong negative reaction to the other person's looks. We see them more as tools to get objective information about someone's height, build, coloring, features, and style of dress – on the day the picture was taken, but that's all.
Dear Rosie & Sherry, I would love to get married, but finding guys willing to date a heavy-set woman has proven difficult.
Especially with the ongoing "singles’ crisis," how can we convince people that it isn't fair to accept or reject someone solely on the basis of their looks?
Jenine Dear Jenine, You've raised two questions that come up frequently – why do plus-sized men and women get rejected so often as potential dates, and why do so many daters make snap decisions about whether or not to date someone because they don't like what they see in a photograph.
If being attractive to a prospective or actual marriage partner is important even during mourning, think how important it must be all of the time.
The "chemistry" that can develop in a face-to-face meeting is a product of how you connect to each other's personalities, sense of humor, mannerisms, self-expression, and thought processes.
To be blunt, a man who strongly prefers more slender women will not factor in your other qualities and decide to take a chance.
And we don't think he should, for a very practical reason. Judaism recognizes how essential physical attraction is in dating and marriage.
Hire a stylist to help you find a flattering hairstyle, clothing, and for women – make-up.
(Most people feel better about themselves after a "makeover", and they project a sense of confidence and self-comfort that makes them appealing to others. ) That may make the difference between a "yes" and a "no" from a prospective dater.