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Post-USSR women are brought up to be passive, display themselves, and let men approach, otherwise you are not “modest”, which is what all guys want in their girlfriends (according to the local beliefs).In Diana’s words, if a Russian guy likes you, nothing can stop him.Bruk also expresses her surprise at “disintegration of male hygiene and work ethics”, citing the poor gender ratios as the reason.From the same book, rape is something that “happens”, and is accepted as a fact of life, not a social problem, she recounts. The roots are in the hunter-prey dating model, prescribing to males to push to the limit.You would think it is stalking, they think it’s being persistent.“Russian men act like your boyfriend from the very beginning,” she writes.In Russia, it is expected from a male to physically defend his lady, or be considered a coward. ), the boyfriend approached his shaking American dame demanding explanations as to what she did that a strange guy felt comfortable enough to grab her, and why did she talk to another chap without his outright permission.Both drinking and violence are the core reasons why there are 106 boys to 100 girls at birth in Russia, and only 86 males to 100 females in the total population.

Just like in western capitals, people tend to dress up more. Petersburg’s ladies] you pluck your own eyebrows and only get a facial once a month, [they] will look at you as though you have just clawed your way out of a swamp,” confesses Bruk. And the main reason why it is important is to attract and keep a boyfriend or a husband.

“If he hits you, that means he loves you,” quotes Diana her mother’s saying, the old-fashioned Slavic belief, which is the reason why domestic violence in Russia is still widely underreported — as well as most other forms of physical assault, making it a “norm” rather than a crime.

Calling her relationship with Russian men “convoluted”, the daring New-Yorker goes on describing the peculiarities of the local dating etiquette.

“You do not meet a Russian man, you are chosen by one,” proclaims Bruk.

I have been trying to bring this idea home for years, but she expressed it so much better.

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