The college guide to dating

Boyfriend #1 and I were high school sweethearts and best friends.

When we decided to do the long distance thing, we knew it was going to be incredibly difficult.

At the end of the day, it all comes down to knowing what you want.

It takes time to figure out your needs, and in all honesty, it takes mistakes too.

I was determined to be single when I entered college, to release myself from worrying about what was happening back home, so I waved goodbye to my high school boyfriend and greeted college with a blank slate.

Advice often imparted to college freshmen is to not be in a relationship at all.

Being in a relationship at this point in your life can be amazing.

It takes a lot of the loneliness away when you start feeling homesick. It isn’t for the ones who thought they’d found the love of their lives and now have to avoid doing their laundry at the same time as their orientation-week hookup, those who were set up by friends and now must endure their tiring jokes and jabs, or the students who have been pretending their phone died to escape certain phone calls.

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With that in mind, my only advice for hooking up in college is to keep yourself safe.

However, over the past few months I’ve learned a lot about what kind of person I am and what I want out of others. I may still not know what I am doing, but I certainly know the mistakes I will not be repeating.

Like any other nineteen-year-old, I was stubbornly convinced that I knew exactly who I was and what I wanted.

By the twenty-third time I’d heard that, I was in disbelief.

But it made sense—the thought of having to take care of someone else when I couldn’t even cook pasta by myself was terrifying.

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